Episode 1
Exceptions, Risk, and the Power of Showing Up as Yourself

In this first episode, Anne and Colleen explore how the experiences of childhood, family, and community shape the ways we show up in the world — and how small moments of exception can open new possibilities.

Anne reflects on her journey from feeling the pressures of cultural expectations to discovering a deeper sense of self through leadership at summer camp. Her story illustrates how authentic leadership doesn’t require loudness or charisma, but rather the courage to be fully oneself. Together, Anne and Colleen explore themes of risk, intergenerational resilience, and the value of embracing change — even when it’s scary.

From childhood lessons in autonomy to parenting through uncertainty, this conversation highlights how we grow when we’re allowed to make mistakes, take risks, and be supported unconditionally. The episode closes with reflections on starting imperfectly, the beauty of vulnerability, and why the most powerful changes often begin in small, exceptional moments.

Important Messages

Exceptions spark change: Change doesn’t always come from grand gestures — it often begins in small “exceptions” to our norms or beliefs. Remember - noticing and nurturing these exceptions (like a four-year-old ending gymnastics on her own terms) can build confidence and agency early on.

Authenticity in leadership: Being a leader doesn’t mean being the loudest or most energetic — it means showing up as your full, honest self. Authenticity attracts others because it creates space for connection and permission for others to do the same.

Summer Camp as a microcosm for growth: Camp provides a space for young people to explore identity, experiment with leadership, and make mistakes in a supportive environment. Canoe tripping and camp problem-solving nurtured resilience, adaptability, and creativity — all vital life skills.

Taking risks and letting go of perfection: Risk-taking is essential for growth, even if the outcome isn’t guaranteed. In fact, risk gives success its meaning; starting with 70% readiness and adjusting along the way is often the key to progress.

Parenting through acceptance, not protection: Parents naturally want to shield their kids from struggle, but growth often comes through manageable risks. The goal isn’t to prevent failure, but to create a safe home base where kids know they’re supported no matter what.

Anne Tong (MSW, RSW)

Anne has over a decade of experience working with youth in multiple capacities. She brings her experience working in adventure-based therapeutic summer camps, coaching competitive rock climbers, and working within the children and youth mental health sector at Pine River Institute. Anne has also felt privileged to be a part of the Sound Youth Counselling team for the past few years supporting in a virtual capacity. She is passionate in supporting individuals to tap into their own resources, to find the strength in their voice, and to take self-responsibility in living a whole and authentic life. Anne’s diverse academic background includes a Master of Social Work from the University of Toronto, a Bachelor of Therapeutic Recreation from Brock University, and a Bachelor of Fine Arts from OCAD University.

Colleen McLean (MSW, RSW)

Colleen grew up in Waterloo and spent her summers attending an overnight camp in Huntsville (which she credits as being one of the most significant influences on her life). After completing her undergrad degree in Psychology from Wilfrid Laurier University, Colleen decided to try and find a full-time job in camping and for 10 years was the General Manager of a wilderness-based leadership program for at-risk youth. Seeing the challenges these young people faced and the systemic cracks they were so susceptible to led her to pursue her Master of Social Work degree (also from WLU) so she could try and do more to help. Now, with over 25-years of experience working with children and youth, she continues to dedicate her career to supporting young people. She is the owner and clinical director of Sound Youth Counselling in Parry Sound, Ontario.